I’m trying to get my shit together. But it’s hard because my “to-do” list is unfocused and unfortunately not even written down for the most part. Which makes even remembering what I need and want to do hard. So hard that I often I just choose to take a nap (instead).
Can you relate?
About 50% of the (mosty) women I train are on a quest to shed weight. And in most cases, they do really need to; lose weight. These are not the skinny bitches on a quest to shed 5 vanity pounds. Many of them are post pregnancy and some of them “just let themselves go” as life happened to and around them.
I NEVER judge or question how or why they came to be and namely came to me. I’m pretty sympathetic. But I don’t enable. Our gym is only as good as each of our success stories.
That said, I can always tell when someone is struggling. And by struggling I mean eating a loaf of bread at night or snaking on their toddler’s hot dogs or not eating enough protein or not eating at all. It’s obvious because the proof is in the performance as well as the appearance.
I will say out right that 50% of the women I train DO NOT eat enough. They are stuck in the old adage that less food is more and that you can accomplish long and lean muscles through starvation and 20 reps of whatever with 5 pound weights. And while I don’t blame them, it does make my job harder.
Here’s the deal, we can only accomplish (at the most) 50% of the weight loss equation in the gym. The rest happens in the kitchen. Or as Amadeo says, “The more you cook, the better you look.”
So, getting back to recognizing the struggle of my clients; it really all begins when they start to give me dirty looks (as I have done so often) when the workouts are tough and their bodies ache and the scale is registering no change… And then, the dirty looks turn into painful conversations involving blame (blaming me, the husband, the kids or the job) and painful conversations sometimes to turn into quitting. And that sucks ass. For all parties concerned.
But I don’t want to get negative on you. Because in truth, sometimes the painful conversation translates to action!
Tonight, I asked 3 of my “girls” to write down everything they ingest for the next week. Everything. And hopefully it’s not nothing. Because nothing leads to nothing. Always.
I asked, because they looked stuck on the other 50%. Kitchen. Cook. Food. Eat. Protein. Period.
To their credit, they all said yes, without dirty looks or fanfare. As a result, come next Friday, rather than being engrossed in some sort of “Fifty Shades of Something,” I will indulge in the food diaries of my favorite angels. It will be telling and I will recognize right away the deficiencies of their “ways.” I won’t get horny (sorry Amy Brown) but I will get smarter to their “game” (I might even giggle). And I will bust their balls accordingly; in the nicest (or not) possible way.
So, get your shit together. Write it down and be honest. We are nothing without accountability.
Which leads me to Mrs. Sarah Kline. Sarah does whatever we ask. I called her a Ninja tonight because it’s the highest compliment I can give. She lost a bunch of weight before coming to us and she continues to lose more. Still, tonight I was thinking she might need a little nudge. And nudge I did. And she didn’t kill me with a dirty look.
Amen, because I think she might be able to take me.
Put down the novel about sex that you are all obsessed with and sharpen your goals...